Intentionality In The New Year And Beyond
Change is always possible and we are all a work in progress, even beyond the resolute month of January. Research encourages us that following these steps makes it more likely that we will meet the goals that we set for ourselves, whatever those may be:
Focus on small, manageable changes. Or maybe you’ll choose one larger goal and break it into chunks.
Write down the intentions you have, like starting a family dinner ritual or listening more mindfully, and check back in on them regularly.
Make a plan for your intended change and consider the likely obstacles. This can look something like, “We’ll plan weekend family meetings for problem solving. I’ll list it on the calendar to remind us.”
Prepare a compassionate statement to repeat to yourself when you feel like you’ve missed the mark; this will help you rebound from a perceived failure. Wobbles happen, and it doesn’t have to be a catastrophe. Actively offer yourself forgiveness, grace and love.
Model for your children how you are setting your own intentions and help them think about setting some of their own, starting with just one new thing they can try. This can be something as simple as taking on an additional chore around the house, exploring a new class or activity, or trying a new coping strategy when emotions run high.